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How to control your anger with these 5 simple steps.

Control your anger before it controls you

That moment when your kid refuses to listen to you or cooperate with, your colleague or stranger keeps bugging you, your roommate keeps disturbing you with loud music when you are trying to rest or read. Do you fume when people ask you irrelevant questions? Or when people keep taking what belongs to you without asking for it? How do you react when you perceive injustice? These are common causes of anger.

That feeling we get when we encounter annoying moments. We feel like we are going to explode any time soon, we just want to scream and pull a building down. We experience the lack of concentration, faster heart beat, clenching of hands and much more.

We all fume when someone does something very annoying or irritating. Getting angry is normal, it shows there things or actions we tolerate and there are actions we just can’t stand or tolerate. Anger causes adrenaline spike  We really have to be careful and learn how to control our anger or our anger will control us.

Here, are some anger management techniques.


Breathe in and out slowly: Have you ever noticed that your heart beats faster when you are so angry? When you notice you’re getting angry, inhale and exhale slowly for 10 seconds. This can help you cool off since your heart is trying to explode. It also gives you time to think straight.

Think before you speak: We make a lot of hurtful and hateful comments when we are burning with anger. We are likely to regret our comments and the words we say when we are angry. Before you say anything, ask yourself, what are the future consequences of what I’m about saying? Will it ruin me? Can it ruin my reputation? Will it ruin who I’m saying it to? Am I over reacting?

Express your anger politely once you are calm: Learning how to express anger positively is a sure way to win. Express your anger politely to whoever angered you. It will not only help you but will help who you are talking to reason with you. When you talk with so much anger, you might end up offending your listener and this will make everything worse. You might end up yelling at each other.

Take a walk if your current position or place allows it: You might not be able to take a walk while driving but if your present position allows it, please do it. Don’t just walk, find pleasure while walking. This is a relaxation technique, it relaxes you mind and muscle. It will help you calm down and it is also beneficial to your health

Try focusing your mind on something positive: If it is still difficult to cool off, try creating a beautiful scenery in your mind. It can be a place that makes you feel relaxed, a memory that brings you happiness, something you love or something very hilarious. Think of anything positive.

Let go of angry thoughts: Angry thoughts are dangerous to the mind. Holding on to whatever made you angry will only make you angrier each time you remember it. Let go of angry and negative thoughts. They will only make the situation worse. Try forgiving whoever offended you or try forgiving yourself if you made yourself angry. It’s a sure way to be happy.

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Izuzu Nworgu • April 28, 2016

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  1. Patricia @ Grab a Plate August 27, 2016 - 7:52 am Reply

    Great ideas! I need to remember to do these things. I especially like the tip to “focus your mind on something positive.” Thank you!

    • Izuzu Nworgu August 30, 2016 - 12:12 am Reply

      Yeah, that tip helps too.
      Thanks for reading.

  2. Justin August 28, 2016 - 2:47 am Reply


  3. Mrs Fancy-Pants August 29, 2016 - 2:31 am Reply

    I have told clients to not react for 10 seconds, to give them time to think about consequences of words/actions etc.

    • Izuzu Nworgu August 30, 2016 - 12:17 am Reply

      I love that tip. It gives you the opportunity to think straight and properly.

  4. Thoughts Above September 8, 2016 - 6:54 pm Reply

    Great tips I like let go anger thoughts point very nice.

    • Izuzu Nworgu September 9, 2016 - 12:17 am Reply

      Thank you

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