5 Awesome life lessons from the E-book “Get Going”
I read this E-book written by Temitope Banks
some weeks back and I found really good life lessons that made me nod in agreement.
So I decided to share them here although my views, ideas and opinions have been interwoven with the lessons.
They are in harmony anyway.
Take responsibility for the things that happen in your life:
It is you who will take you where you want to go in life and not someone else.
Sometimes, people contribute to the bad things that happen in our lives but making them take the blame will not change anything.
So what’s the point?
Take the blame then figure out how this problem can be fixed. If you can’t do it alone, then ask for help.
It is very unlikely for people to fix the problems they’ve caused in your life.
Taking the blame is quite different from self-blame. Self-blame will leave you hating yourself.
Your life begins to change the day you take responsibility for it.
“You are responsible for your life’s outcomes and as such, don’t give the driver’s seat of your life to someone else. Take responsibility” –Temi Banks
The conversations we have in our minds can either ruin or make us.
Our thoughts are like seeds cultivated during the planting season.
You can’t sow bean seeds and reap corn. It’s practically impossible.
So are our thoughts.
Consciously and unconsciously, we sow different kinds of seeds in our minds and if we are not careful, one day we’ll wake up and realise that we’ve planted the wrong seeds.
Positive thoughts will yield productive results but limiting and negative thoughts will yield messy results.
Virtually everything depends on the way we think and the way we see things.
A person with a size 18 body will not fit into a size 10 dress. It doesn’t mean the person is bad, it just doesn’t fit. So are people.
There are people that cannot just fit into our lives.
So why force it?
Trying to make everyone fit into your live means, you are likely to compromise your values.
Let your values be the first thing people notice when they come into your life and anyone in your life who deliberately makes you compromise your values deserves to be kicked out of your life.
These type of people will always put you down.
The fear of failure will take you nowhere
The fear of failure prevents you from trying something new because you’re scared of stumbling. Afraid of being laughed at. Afraid that people will reprimand and judge you.
You’re a genius for trying in the first place. When we fail, we discover ways that won’t work and that is the way forward in life.
This was one of my greatest fears prior to this year, I noticed I wasn’t moving forward because there were a whole lot of things I never wanted to try because I never wanted to fail. But that’s not the case anymore. I’ve decided to take a different path and I know it’s going to take me to a wonderful destination.
Failure is completely inevitable.
So why try to avoid it?
In other to overcome the fear of failure, you’ll have to accept that it exists in your life, then take a bold step out of your comfort zone and try something new. Comfort zones are the biggest limiting factors in life.
Sometimes, overcoming the fear of failure involves taking wise risks. Risks that will produce beneficial results.
You see, it’s one thing to set a goal and it’s another to achieve that goal.
One of the reasons we haven’t achieved our goals yet is because we are taking the wrong steps to achieve these goals.
In other to achieve these goals, we have to write them down.
Put a deadline for the achievement of these goals. This will help you reduce your chances of procrastination.
Have a solid plan on how these goals can be achieved.
Take action now!!
Remember to enjoy the process.