5 Habits that will steal your happiness
There are definitely habits that will always rob you of your happiness if they are incorporated into your life. Happiness depends on our attitude and that is the truth. Last time, I made a list of 20 awesome quotes on happiness. If you haven’t read it yet, you should definitely check it out.
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5 HABITS THAT WILL STEAL YOUR HAPPINESS
WAITING FOR HAPPINESS
Do you ever feel that there certain things that must happen for you to be happy?
Sometimes I do. You do. We all do.
This is a little habit that will always steal your happiness.
We’re either waiting for the perfect moment to arrive or just simply living in our imaginations. I’ll finally find happiness when I —– (fill in the gap). This moment should be lived not wasted on wishes. You are responsible for your happiness so stop waiting and make it happen.
DWELLING ON YOUR UGLY PAST
In this journey called life, we’ll face a lot; the death of a loved one, the embarrassing moments, your fight with someone, the life-changing opportunities you missed, miserable mistakes, disappointments, the injustice you suffered… (Name them) and we dwell on the things that will only bring sad and negative thoughts without even realizing that we’re hurting ourselves the more.
Yes! We are humans, we have feelings and emotions but why worry so much about things we cannot change, things and events that are totally out of our control.
“Worrying is like a rocking chair, it keeps you busy but takes you nowhere” – Unknown.
Nobody finds happiness by dwelling on his or her ugly past. Don’t let things that are totally out of your control steal your happiness.
If you want to be happy, let go of your ugly past and move on. This can be a difficult thing to do, but it is worth it.
“When one door closes, another door opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us”- Alexander Graham Bell
TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE
Or you’re a people pleaser.
“Always trying to please others is definitely an assured path to stress and failures in life”- Edmond Mbiaka
People pleasers do everything possible to make everyone like them even if it means compromising their values and standards.
They focus on what other people want instead of what they need and as such, their happiness depends on other people’s happiness. This might be because they’re afraid of rejection, afraid that people will turn against them or afraid of what people will say when they do certain things.
If people do not like you for who you are, the way you are, don’t force it. They don’t deserve to be in your life in the first place.
“Don’t go into the business of pleasing others. You can’t please everybody. Simply do your best at what you do” – Bangambiki Habyarimana
YOU HOLD GRUDGES ALL THE TIME
Holding a grudge against someone is burdensome; an unnecessary stress that will always weigh you down and hurt just you alone. This is a bad habit you should drop. “Holding a grudge is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die” – Anne Lamott.
People will hurt you, people will annoy you, people will let you down, and people will wrong you intentionally and unintentionally. Some will apologize, some will not and some have absolutely no idea that they have wronged you.
Ask yourself, what benefit does holding a grudge against someone have? It has no benefit.
Holding a grudge will never make you a better person or the smarter one.
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Let go and move on. Each time you are tempted to hold a grudge, ask yourself, what good will holding a grudge against someone do?
“Let today be the day you finally release yourself from the imprisonment of past grudges and anger. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and live abundantly beautiful present” – Steve Maraboli
COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
It is so easy to compare ourselves to others. We’re either comparing our personal lives, our businesses, families or the so-called perfect life we see on social media every day.
Comparing yourself to others will always steal your happiness without you being aware.
We all have flaws, we all have downtimes, we are unique, we are different, and we have different gifts, abilities and talents.
We compare the worst chapters of our lives to the best chapters of someone else’s life. Are we not being unfair to others and to ourselves?
Be grateful for whatever you have for who you are and be grateful for the people that will always have your back.
Life is not a competition.
“Personality begins when comparison leaves off. Be unique, be memorable, be confident and be proud” – Shannon L Alder
Have an awesomely positive life.