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5 Habits that will steal your happiness

There are definitely habits that will always rob you of your happiness if they are incorporated into your life. Happiness depends on our attitude and that is the truth. Last time, I made a list of 20 awesome quotes on happiness. If you haven’t read it yet, you should definitely check it out.


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5 HABITS THAT WILL STEAL YOUR HAPPINESS
Habits that will steal your happinessWAITING FOR HAPPINESS

Do you ever feel that there certain things that must happen for you to be happy?

Sometimes I do. You do. We all do.

This is a little habit that will always steal your happiness.

We’re either waiting for the perfect moment to arrive or just simply living in our imaginations. I’ll finally find happiness when I —– (fill in the gap). This moment should be lived not wasted on wishes. You are responsible for your happiness so stop waiting and make it happen.

“Very little is needed to make a happy life. It’s all within you, in your way of thinking” – Marcus Aurelius

DWELLING ON YOUR UGLY PAST

In this journey called life, we’ll face a lot; the death of a loved one, the embarrassing moments, your fight with someone, the life-changing opportunities you missed, miserable mistakes, disappointments, the injustice you suffered… (Name them) and we dwell on the things that will only bring sad and negative thoughts without even realizing that we’re hurting ourselves the more.

Yes! We are humans, we have feelings and emotions but why worry so much about things we cannot change, things and events that are totally out of our control.

“Worrying is like a rocking chair, it keeps you busy but takes you nowhere” – Unknown.

Nobody finds happiness by dwelling on his or her ugly past. Don’t let things that are totally out of your control steal your happiness.

If you want to be happy, let go of your ugly past and move on. This can be a difficult thing to do, but it is worth it.

“When one door closes, another door opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us”- Alexander Graham Bell

TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYONE

Or you’re a people pleaser.

“Always trying to please others is definitely an assured path to stress and failures in life”- Edmond Mbiaka

Pleasing peoplePeople pleasers do everything possible to make everyone like them even if it means compromising their values and standards.

They focus on what other people want instead of what they need and as such, their happiness depends on other people’s happiness. This might be because they’re afraid of rejection, afraid that people will turn against them or afraid of what people will say when they do certain things.

If people do not like you for who you are, the way you are, don’t force it. They don’t deserve to be in your life in the first place.

“Don’t go into the business of pleasing others. You can’t please everybody. Simply do your best at what you do” – Bangambiki Habyarimana

YOU HOLD GRUDGES ALL THE TIME

Holding a grudge against someone is burdensome; an unnecessary stress that will always weigh you down and hurt just you alone. This is a bad habit you should drop. “Holding a grudge is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die” – Anne Lamott.

People will hurt you, people will annoy you, people will let you down, and people will wrong you intentionally and unintentionally. Some will apologize, some will not and some have absolutely no idea that they have wronged you.

Ask yourself, what benefit does holding a grudge against someone have? It has no benefit.

Holding a grudge will never make you a better person or the smarter one.

Forgiveness is awesome. It helps you find peace of mind, releases tension and lowers your blood pressure.

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Let go and move on. Each time you are tempted to hold a grudge, ask yourself, what good will holding a grudge against someone do?

“Let today be the day you finally release yourself from the imprisonment of past grudges and anger. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and live abundantly beautiful present” – Steve Maraboli

COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

It is so easy to compare ourselves to others. We’re either comparing our personal lives, our businesses, families or the so-called perfect life we see on social media every day.

Comparing yourself to others will always steal your happiness without you being aware.

We all have flaws, we all have downtimes, we are unique, we are different, and we have different gifts, abilities and talents.

We compare the worst chapters of our lives to the best chapters of someone else’s life. Are we not being unfair to others and to ourselves?

Be grateful for whatever you have for who you are and be grateful for the people that will always have your back.

Life is not a competition.

“Personality begins when comparison leaves off. Be unique, be memorable, be confident and be proud” – Shannon L Alder

 

Have an awesomely positive life.

 

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Izuzu Nworgu • September 26, 2016


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  1. candy September 26, 2016 - 11:36 pm Reply

    All of these do harm to a person. Sometime people thing holding a grudge, gossiping etc makes them look good. Only hurting themselves.

    • Izuzu Nworgu September 27, 2016 - 10:28 pm Reply

      Hello candy

      I totally agree with you.

  2. Jas September 27, 2016 - 3:03 am Reply

    Totally agree with everything you’ve said. Its like giving up on those negative thoughts and feelings we so tightly hold on to. Then, living in the joy of the present moment.

    • Izuzu Nworgu September 27, 2016 - 10:46 pm Reply

      Hi Jas,

      Thank you for your vote of agreement.

      Holding unto negative thoughts and feelings can steal our happiness and our happiness is important, that means, we’ll have to let these thoughts and feelings go.

      Have a great day.

  3. Ikechi September 27, 2016 - 5:27 am Reply

    Hi Izuzu

    Thumbs up for such a lovely post and you shared 5 Habits that do affect our happiness.

    You are on point and I agree with these tips most especially the part of comparing oneself. Thanks for sharing. Take care

    • Izuzu Nworgu September 27, 2016 - 10:38 pm Reply

      Hello,

      Thank you for stopping by. Sometimes, our happiness can be affected by the habits we pick up.

      Comparing oneself is definitely one of those habits.

  4. Anna September 27, 2016 - 5:04 pm Reply

    Forgiveness IS awesome.

    • Izuzu Nworgu September 27, 2016 - 10:30 pm Reply

      That’s right.
      Thank you

  5. Lauren September 28, 2016 - 6:10 pm Reply

    This is a really good list. All so true.

    • Izuzu Nworgu October 1, 2016 - 12:26 am Reply

      Thank you so much Lauren

  6. Emily September 29, 2016 - 9:41 pm Reply

    This list is gold!!! It’s so true. Being present is what makes me feel the happiest 🙂

    • Izuzu Nworgu October 1, 2016 - 12:27 am Reply

      Thank you, Emily.
      Being present makes a lot of difference.

  7. Wunebari igakeh October 5, 2016 - 11:01 pm Reply

    Beautiful piece i must confess.. You’re so right! Honestly we must give room to more happiness and learn how to move on easily as well

    • Izuzu Nworgu October 7, 2016 - 7:58 am Reply

      Hello Wunebari,
      Thank you for stopping by. I totally agree with you. We must give room to more happiness

  8. Danielle October 26, 2016 - 12:50 am Reply

    Love this! It reminds me of the quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” It’s so true. So often, we wait and wait and wait for happiness, not realizing the irony of that.

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:38 pm Reply

      And sometimes when we finally get what we’re waiting for, we realise that the happiness it brings will not last.
      Thank you!

  9. Bridget | Antics of a Nutty Hiker October 26, 2016 - 2:36 am Reply

    Great advice! Holding grudges only hurts yourself (and keeps you stressed out)! It’s amazing how much lighter you feel (and happier) when you learn to let go of grudges!
    =) Bridget

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:37 pm Reply

      Exactly! I feel a lot happier when I let go of bitter thoughts.
      Thank you

  10. Chloe October 26, 2016 - 6:18 am Reply

    Absolutely love this post! Totally agree with this entire list! 🙂 xo, Chloe
    http://www.funinthecloset.com

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:31 pm Reply

      Thank you for your vote of agreement!

  11. rachel October 26, 2016 - 10:13 am Reply

    I’m guilty of all of these and this is definitely something that i need to work on xx

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:35 pm Reply

      At some point, we all let some of these habits into our lives.
      Goodluck on that!

  12. Yuliya October 26, 2016 - 12:51 pm Reply

    And also you need to let all the “poison” people go away

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:30 pm Reply

      That’s right!
      Thank you

  13. Amanda Macdonald October 26, 2016 - 12:56 pm Reply

    All such good things to know to help in making life a happier place

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:29 pm Reply

      Thank you so much.

  14. Marie October 26, 2016 - 6:13 pm Reply

    Love this: “Worrying is like a rocking chair, it keeps you busy but takes you nowhere” – Unknown :). This is such a beautiful post and makes you take an honest look at the roadblocks that keep us from enjoying happiness. Forgiveness was a big one for me. It’s not always an easy one and something I work on continually but its so worth it!

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:29 pm Reply

      I also love that quote.
      Thank you so much. Yes! It’s not always easy to forgive so easily but you’ll feel a lot better when you do and it creates more room for happiness.

  15. Sian October 26, 2016 - 7:49 pm Reply

    I agree with all of these, but it is still so hard to let go of most of them! I am working on trying to be happy and mindful, hopefully by trying to let go of some of these things I will find a little bit more happy!

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:25 pm Reply

      It’s always a little difficult to break negative habits but you can do it slowly.
      Goodluck as you try to let go!

  16. Dave October 27, 2016 - 8:05 pm Reply

    Wonderful post, and I loved each point you made. Especially find comparison with others to be very unhelpful!

    • Izuzu Nworgu November 3, 2016 - 1:22 pm Reply

      Thank you so much, Dave.
      Comparing yourself to people is very unhelpful. It’ll leave you feeling behind in life.

  17. SeekAndRead June 1, 2017 - 2:57 pm Reply

    Great post, I agree with all 5. We should not pay so much attention to the other and just let it go.

  18. Stana Ferrari June 1, 2017 - 3:02 pm Reply

    Very helpful and I wish millions of people could apply it 🙂

  19. Nicole June 26, 2017 - 11:38 am Reply

    This is such a good list of the things we do to sabotage our our joy and they are simple everyday things. Thanks for the reminder that I need to be aware of what I am doing to stand in the way of myself.

  20. Jennifer June 26, 2017 - 1:05 pm Reply

    Yes to all of them. Comparing yourself to others can be a huge downfall because we usually take our worst day and compare it to someone else’s best day. We lose every time that way.

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